PREPARING FOR CONFESSION DURING LENT

In the Sacrament of Reconciliation (Confession),
we encounter Jesus Christ, who after rising from
the dead breathed the Holy Spirit on his Apostles —
the first priests — and gave them the power to forgive
sins in his name (Jn 20:23). The Heart of Christ
burns with love for us and he wants us to experience
his immense and unfathomable mercy by confessing
our sins and receiving his forgiveness. This
Sacrament gives us the consolation of God’s pardon
and strengthens our relationship with Christ and
his Church.
A Guide
to Confession
PRAYER TO OUR LADY
BEFORE CONFESSION
“Mary, Mother of Jesus and my Mother, your Son
died on a cross for me. Help me to confess my sins
humbly and with trust in the mercy of God, that I
may receive his pardon and peace.”
RECOGNIZING SIN AND
GROWING IN HOLINESS
As followers of Jesus, we need to examine our
lives and recognize our sinful thoughts, words,
deeds, and omissions so that we can bring them to
God for forgiveness. Such an examination of conscience
should be done regularly, always with trust
in God’s mercy and love and in the power of the
Sacrament of Reconciliation.
We all sin, but we do not all acknowledge our sins.
It takes honesty and courage to reflect upon our
refusals of God’s grace and our rejections of his law
of love. Contemporary society is often blind to the
reality of sin and sometimes even presents sinful
behaviors or lifestyles as positive goods to be sought
and desired. In his encyclical Reconciliation and
Penance (1984), Pope John Paul II suggests that the
defining sin of modern times is the “loss of the sense
of sin”and reminds us of St. John’s warning:“If we say
we have no sin,we deceive ourselves, and the truth is
not in us” (1 Jn 1:8).
Sin is the deliberate violation of God’s law.
Although sin promises illusory goods or happiness, it
results in harm to the sinner, who is always the primary
victim of sin.The Church teaches that there are
two kinds of sin: mortal and venial. Mortal sin is a
deliberate and free choice of something known to be
seriously wrong that destroys our friendship with
God and separates us from him (cf. 1 Jn 5:16-17).All of
the following three conditions must be met for a sin
to be mortal: (1) it must be something serious; (2) it
must be done with sufficient knowledge of its gravity;
and (3) it must be done with sufficient freedom of
the will. Venial sin is a minor offense against God’s
law that hurts our relationship with God but does not
destroy it.
The Sacrament of Reconciliation is the ordinary
way to have our sins forgiven. It is an encounter
with the mercy of the living God, who meets us
where we are in our weakness and our sins, and it
powerfully deepens our psychological and spiritual
growth. The source of many graces, it should be celebrated
regularly and whenever the need is felt.
Monthly confession is a healthy and effective means
of growing closer to God and leading a balanced,
Christ-centered lifestyle.
CONTRITION
We need contrition, or sorrow for our sins, to
receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation and contrition
must include a firm purpose to amend our life
and avoid the near occasions of sin — that is, the situations,
persons, places, and things that lead us to sin.
Sorrow for sin is very different from sadness or selfhatred.
As we draw closer to God, our sense of sin and
sorrow for sin become deeper,just as do our joy,peace
of heart, and purity of conscience.
ACT OF CONTRITION
“O my God, I am heartily sorry for having
offended you, and I detest all my sins because of
your just punishments, but most of all because
they offend you, my God, who are all good and
deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve, with the
help of your grace, to sin no more and to avoid the
near occasions of sin.”
HOW TO GO TO CONFESSION
■ Pray to the Holy Spirit for self-knowledge and trust
in the mercy of God. Examine your conscience, be
truly sorry for your sins, and resolve to change your
life.
■ Go to the priest and begin with the Sign of the
Cross. Welcoming you, the priest will say:“May God,
who has enlightened every heart, help you to know
your sins and trust in his mercy,” or similar words
taken from Scripture.You answer:“Amen. Then say,
“Bless me, Father, for I have sinned. It has been
____ weeks/ months/years since my last confession.”
■ Confess your sins openly and candidly. Tell the
priest of all mortal sins and the number of times each
was committed, and then you may confess some of
your venial sins. (Although it is not strictly necessary
to confess venial sins, the Church recommends that
you do.) If you do not know whether a sin is mortal
or venial, ask the priest. If you have no mortal sins,
confess venial sins you have committed since your
last confession; you may also mention some mortal
sin from your past life for which you are particularly
sorry, indicating that it has already been confessed.
■ Then listen to the priest for whatever counsel he
may judge appropriate. If you have any question
about the faith, how to grow in holiness, or whether
something is a sin, feel free to ask him. Then the
priest will assign you a penance.
■ Pray the Act of Contrition when the priest tells you.
■ Listen as the priest absolves you of your sins and
enjoy the fact that God has truly freed you from all
your sins. If you forget to confess a mortal sin, you
are still forgiven, but must mention it the next time
you go to confession.
■ Do the penance the priest assigns you.
If you are anxious or unsure of what to
do, take this guide with you or tell the
priest and he will make it easier for you.
AN AID TO YOUR EXAMINATION
OF CONSCIENCE
1. I am the Lord your God. You shall not have
strange gods before me.
■ Do I seek to love God with all my heart and with
all my soul and with all my strength (Dt 6:5)? Do I
put anything or anyone above God? Do I pray daily?
■ Have I had any involvement with the occult, witchcraft,
wicca, ouija boards, seances, tarot cards, new
age crystals, fortune telling, or the like? Have I put
faith in horoscopes?
■ Have I received Holy Communion in the state of
mortal sin?
■ Have I abused the Sacrament of Penance by lying to
the priest or deliberately not confessing a mortal sin?
■ Have I denied a truth of the faith out of concern for
the respect or opinion of others?
2. You shall not take the name of the Lord your
God in vain.
■ Have I used God’s holy name irreverently?
■ Have I blasphemed God, the Church, Mary, the
saints, or sacred places or things?
3. Remember to keep holy the Lord’s Day.
■ Do I try to keep Sunday as a day of prayer, rest, and
relaxation, avoiding unnecessary work?
■ Have I deliberately come late or left early from Mass
without a good reason?
4. Honor your father and your mother.
■ Do I honor and respect my parents?
■ Have I deliberately hurt my parents?
■ Do I treat my children with love and respect?
■ Do I support and care for the well-being of all family
members?
■ Have I neglected family duties?
■ Do I honor and obey my lawful superiors?
5. You shall not kill.
■ Have I deliberately harmed anyone?
■ Have I had an abortion or encouraged an abortion?
■ Have I attempted suicide or seriously considered it?
■ Have I abused drugs or alcohol?
■ Have I led anyone to sin through bad example or
through direct encouragement?
6. You shall not commit adultery.
For the married
■ Am I faithful to my spouse in thought and action?
■ Have I used artificial contraception,✥ or been sterilized?
■ Was I married outside the Church without proper
permission of the Church?
For the unmarried
■ Have I engaged in sexual activity with anyone of
either sex?
For all
■ Have I deliberately viewed pornographic magazines,
videos or internet websites?
■ Have I masturbated?
■ Have I used impure language or told impure jokes?
■ Do I dress modestly?
7. You shall not steal.
■ Have I stolen or accepted stolen goods?
■ Have I deliberately destroyed the property of others?
■ Have I cheated anyone of what I owe?
■ Do I gamble excessively?
■ Do I share what I have with the poor and the
Church according to my means?
■ Have I pirated materials: videos, music, software?
8. You shall not bear false witness against
your neighbor.
■ Have I lied? Have I sworn falsely?
■ Have I plagiarized or been academically dishonest?
■ Have I gossiped? Have I revealed secrets or confidential
information without good reason?
■ Have I ruined the good name of others by spreading
lies or maliciously revealing their faults and sins?
9. You shall not desire your neighbor’s wife.
■ Have I deliberately and consciously permitted sexual
thoughts about anyone besides my spouse?
■ Do I guard my imagination and senses?
■ Have I watched shows, plays, pictures or movies
that contain impure scenes with the deliberate intention
of being aroused by them? Am I responsible
about what I read?
10. You shall not desire your neighbor’s
goods.
■ Am I envious of the possessions, abilities, talents,
beauty, or success of others?
You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
■ Do I love my neighbor? Is there anyone whom I do
not love or refuse to love? Have I wished harm or
misfortune on anyone?
■ Do I forgive from my heart those who have hurt
me? Do I harbor hatred or grudges? Do I pray for my
enemies?
■ Have I ridiculed or humiliated others?
■ Do I seek to help others in need?
■ Do I love myself as God loves me? Do I care for my
physical, emotional, and spiritual health?
■ Do I forgive myself for my sins after bringing them
to God in the Sacrament of Reconciliation?
Precepts of the Church
■ Have I deliberately missed Mass on a Sunday or
Holy Day of obligation without a serious reason?
■ Do I go to confession at least once a year when I
have serious sins to confess?
■ Do I receive Holy Communion, at least once during
Eastertime?
■ Do I take part in the major feasts celebrating Our
Lord, the Virgin Mary, and the saints?
■ Do I abstain from meat on Fridays during Lent (for
ages 14 and over) and fast on one full meal on Ash
Wednesday and Good Friday (for ages 18-59)? Do I
fast for one hour before Holy Communion (water
and medicine allowed)?
■ Do I contribute to support the material needs of
the Church?
IMPRIMATUR
+ William E. Lori, S.T.D.
Auxiliary Bishop of Washington
Oct. 8, 1999
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